Is Adult Phone Sex With Another Person An Infidelity?

We have all had conversations in which the subject connected with cheating is spoken about and not too long ago I had such a chat with a good friend who was basically revealing to me that her husband was in fact utilising her mastercard to purchase chitchats with an sex company and that the idea he was using her dollars to pay for intimacy appeared to be what had really rattled her “I am thankful that they were low-priced phone sex conversations” my friend ultimately said about all those phonesex discussions he had been taking pleasure in without her knowledge, as though he ought to be appreciated for acute sense of financial propriety for picking low-priced phone sex rather than more costly sex phone numbers! I had to finally ask her if the fee for his “behavior ” was the major reason for being annoyed, let’s be honest, in the event that my own husband had been the one enjoying live one-to-one intimate discussions with other girls, I believe I may have turned out to be furious about the whole thing!

What with one on one phone sex conversations, to private shows, to who knows what, the world is all of a sudden a much smaller place when it comes to connect with people.
I actually know plenty of people, who are single or in between relationships who do use this type of adult entertainment. However what if you were in a relationship and you found out that your partner did more than think about it! He actually used it for himself. What would you do? Would you forgive him like my friend just did (she discovered that her dear husband had been getting in touch with a sex phone service for some special “delight”, and not just that he used her card “yet” showed “signs of wisdom” in electing to spend her very own dough on Low-cost Phone Sex deals!), or would his actions be a real problem for you? I know how I would have reacted but here is what my friend told me when I asked her whether she had been angered by the whole thing!

Wouldn’t you agree that when we go out with the girls sometimes, some of us get into more mischief than my dear husband does?”

Needless to say, I found her answer really interesting. I mean who would have thought that my friend, my dear loyal friend who was always the quietest during those nights out she had just referred to could be so understanding, so broad minded. The way she had rationalized the event was so underwhelming, as if it was no big deal, after all, all he ever did was to talk dirty with women over the phone and I, more than anyone else, knew all about the power of suggestions and how words can be so enticing. “He is calling fantasy lines” she added and she was right.

Had I not caught my own husband watching porn on several occasions, without me? “I caught Bob (my own husband) watching porn on his iPhone the other day! I had to admit. “If I am honest with myself, I would say that yes, I was angry, but more so because I felt left out”!

I was about to go on with my very own attempt at rationalizing the behavior of our dear beloved when she interrupted me:

“Wait… It wasn’t as if I was completely ok with the whole thing, but really I could not see any harm in whatever he had done. I did tell him off for the fact that he used my credit card without my knowledge, and as I was talking to him about it, it suddenly dawned on me that I might have liked to have been involved in the next call. So I told him so. I said that any time he had the need to seek release with some adult phone girl, I wanted to be included in the conversation, either in the background, just listening in, or actively involved in it”

That “floored me”! Literally knocked me off my seat! This was my lovely, innocent child hood friend! The girl who still went bright red whenever she heard a joke of a more “earthy” nature. And now she was telling me that the idea of joining in with her husband and a third party was appealing to her!

“Don’t tell me that you did!” I asked her!

“Yes…” She said. “And before you ask, yes, it was a lot of fun!”